The V-Card Giveaway was developed and implemented by the It's on Us Action Team and Women's, Gender, and Sexuality Studies as a way to deepen ongoing campus conversations about Affirmative Consent and healthy sexuality. The project challenges students to reject the construct of virginity, and with it the idea that decisions about sexual intimacy are a single, yes or no choice. Instead, the project encourages students to explore their own values, and then choose behaviors ranging across a continuum from sexual abstinence to sexual intimacy, that are aligned with those values. Finally, the project also recognizes that values change over time, and that people may need support in understanding their own values, and in making healthy choices about sexual behaviors.
No. Many vaginas have a thin membrane (called a hymen) around the opening. Sometimes hymens tear the first time a person has vaginal sex. Other times hymens stretch and don’t tear. No one, not even doctors, can look at someone’s vagina and tell if they’ve had sex.
The way that we talk about virginity is harmful. Messages about virginity tend to be:
Challenge the idea that “sex” only means one thing. Encourage people to explore their own values. It’s OK to choose sexual abstinence or sexual intimacy. Feelings and desires change, so it's important to check in with sexual partners each time you are intimate.